One thing I learned from Aamna from Something Hot is how her approach towards Hassan has changed. Earlier, she used to nag him, but now the way she handles him is much more platonic. but she gets her way by changing and calcultively and social skills to communicate with him. She maintains that boundary without making things awkward.

one kpop songer mingyu from seventeen ,team members have praised for is that whoever he is around, She can gel with almost everyone. That is a very valuable human skill.

And I think that comes from detachment and socializing alot and is sy yeh hota hy k when u keep socializing bohot sy muscles polish hoty hy , but also one of the benefit is u stop putting ppl on pedestal .out of loneliness and introvertism. and jo roz 5,6 or 3,4 logo ka group 2hrs shighal board games ,unka nect level personality men energy and magentism dikhta . You connect with people because you genuinely enjoy connecting with them, not because you want something from them. You don't need their validation, affection or approval to feel good about yourself.

Your centre of the universe is Allah, your growth and your skills. Everything else has its place, but there has to be a balance.

For example, when your growth and skills are your priority, you automatically become more conscious of your integrity, dignity, reputation and image. You understand that a project might become a hit, but the things you compromise along the way can stay with you for much longer.

Take close-proximity scenes and unnecessary romantic angles, for example. What do you actually gain from them? Sometimes, shipping benefits the male co-star much more than it benefits the female actor. You end up being discussed in relation to someone else rather than being appreciated for your own work. And often, actresses who lack a strong individual identity or the ability to establish themselves through their craft resort to these tactics for visibility. not stand on theor own acting avhi ni , umhe zarorat hoti hy.

Another important thing is understanding that not every co-actor or team member is someone you should work with. For example, if you know that a particular co-actor, like Daniyal, has a working style or personality that doesn't align with yours, you should be able to make that decision. Even if it's a job opportunity, you don't have to accept everything.

Generosity should never become an excuse for people-pleasing or self-abandonment. isiliye sequence is Allah center of universe ,the your growth skills and everything is skill and discipline ,giggling skills habit ko practice krty raho habit bm jaye gi. woh b ek muscle hy .then relationship and job men balance. Sometimes, you make your job the centre of your universe and forget your own growth, skills, respect and dignity in the process.and allah k ilawa center of universe kisi or ko bnaya ,us k liye ap desperate hogaye or jis k liye ap desperate hogy usmen besakoni or resistance ati hy its even in law of universe ,mehnat or strategieze k kese krna hy kuch b or kar k leave it To Allah agar woh apke liye achi hogi mil jayegi 10x k sath q k apne allah py chor dia sahi strategize kar k or smartmes sy .tu isliye 10x mehnat ka sila but agar ni mili woh chez tu ALLAH US MEHNAT KO AMANAT RAKH LEMGY OR WAPIS AP KO JO APKY LITE BEHTAR HY US K SATH DOUBLE LUTA DENGY.

The same applies to relationships and people. Don't put people on a pedestal to the point that you're constantly thinking about what they're doing, what they think of you and how you can make them happy. You shouldn't be giving people more importance than you give to Allah mtlb allah sy zyada logo ka and like hazrat ali said nothing worth your tears. and your own responsibilities towards yourself.

There is a difference between doing something because it genuinely benefits your growth and doing it because you want someone to love you or validate you. woh temporary validation mil jati hy. or hum sb ko praise chahiye but woh bonus hy ,but if u treat bonus as k apny andar ki low self worth or healing validation lack of knowledge ka comprmsation or easy way out aplogo ki tareefo sy karna chah rahy hy tu phir ap sari zindagi logo ki validation k liye bhago gy or ppl can see it amd ruins you.unhealed self ,is unattarctive , jb ap khud woh validation lety ho and knlw k is chez ki knowlefge ho then with discipline ,practical men laao ,tu ap khud ki validation ajata hai. jese i built decsion makimg. stylimg fashion ki knowledge. b men khud shop krti ,begore mujhy valaidtion chahiye hoti thi mom ki yhe pehno k ni pehno. but yeah with my brother and man of family or your partner and unke samny 2 choices rakhdo k konsa pehno make them feel included just for sake of it. they feel invested in u and yeh cheze although i dont need it but strategic calculative way men comnection rakhna. ismen hi hikmate amli hai.

For example, thinking strategically that if I communicate this way, maintain this boundary or make this decision, it will add value to my professional growth is rational thinking. That's self-loyalty. You're being calculative about what serves your long-term interests without compromising your principles.

But doing something simply because you want affection, attention or validation is an entirely different thing.

And this is something I appreciate about Aamna on Something Hot. Look at how she handles Hassan, even when he does something unusual or behaves in a way that might irritate others. She has managed to develop such a smooth dynamic with him.

Otherwise, most of us probably wouldn't get along with someone like that. We might argue, disagree and have our own opinions, but she knows how to communicate her point without constantly creating friction. And the important thing is that she doesn't abandon her position. She stands by what she believes while still knowing how to handle the other person.

That's what I call people skills. It's not about romantic interest, nor is it simply about maintaining a platonic relationship. It's about understanding human nature, adapting your communication and knowing how to deal with different personalities.

Even within siblings, you'll sometimes find that one sibling who can get along with everyone, including the sibling nobody else can handle. That's people skills.

And that's another thing I learned from Aamna through Something Hot.