I also have nieces. but i learnt ,i used to over spent my time but time is previous. your growth slills u dont know what situations come and u still stuck umprepared always ,. and noone take responsibility and gives u so much credit k apmi precious time and growth and skills ,gym learning time ap 6hours 5hours kisi ko derahy thy ,yeh bohot bari baat or nuqsan hy ,they will say yehi bolen gy men kaha tha. khud ki fiqar and balance and self loyalty ni thi and attachment isdues ,so balance Of course, you accommodate them, take care of them and spend time with them. But I don't make it about ke mujhe apni diet, apni yoga, apni exercises, apni skincare, apni routine change karke har cheez overindulge karke accommodate karni hai. And aap kisi ki aya ban ke chale jao.

Yes, they have a kid. But it's even after we have sisters. It's their responsibility. Ek ghanta, 1.5 hours .just give them gifts. thora sy time spend .. Don't make them your responsibility. You will get tired, you will never even feel credited, and then you will resent it.

Risthon mein boundaries and balance hona chahiye. No matter how much you love your nieces, unke liye gifts le ke jao, unko cheezein de do. And ek ghanta, zyada se zyada do ghanta aap unke saath khelo. Then go gym karo. parents woh bany hai unki responsibiliyy. kabhi kabhar karliya. apni life jiyein aur aap kisi ki ayaa nurse ban ke baithe hue hain. mother is hufe respeonsibility ,enjoy ur single life jinke bache hue woh kahyal kare ,why do you need to take the responsibility of a mother?ap kabhi unsy upar ni hogy ,and as time ppl will forget k apny itna time doya tha time is precious. karo lekin apni grwoth skills jo apke sath rahy gi or us sy ap bad men cheze maintainance kar sakty hu cuz u hav interpersonal skills, soft exterior feminine ,conflict witty comeback calm regilated joyful boundaries ,decison making ,witty comeback comfidence discipline. no ons should become comforatble with over expecting cuz u make yhem comforatble that your needs are secondary. detached. socailize nond banao but balance apna time and self care no matter what apny jake gym .knowledge ,socailze ,islam ,namaz quran surah waqiah ,surah rehman and surah mulk parhni hai. mulk for qabar k azab and rehman for wonders healing. waqiah for all rizq including partner. then just growth skills .

Of course, kabhi kabhi ek do din unka khayal kar liya. But in the end, six hours, four hours, five hours — hours you need to take someone, take care of them. Uske baad aapka schedule hota hai, aapka gym karna hota hai and your lymphatic drainage exercises, your fascia exercises, your reading. You need growth and skills and up-level yourself as fast as possible.

So it's not your time ke har cheez pe over-exaggerate, socialize two hours maximum. Play with your nieces agar roz kar rahe ho, 30 minutes maximum ,Then go to gym, exercise, skincare, lose facial weight, slim waist, fascia exercises, lymphatic drainage, healthy lifestyle, good night sleep. And don't look back at things.

The fact I've realized, whenever I start listening to music, I start to reel into and keep feeling new emotion and feeling. and past thing exagerate kar k pesh hoti hai. Suddenly I start craving something. Or if I watch certain things. Of course we have estrogen hormones and all. sooft porn and all . It starts to turn you on. You're turned on by that as well. So no matter how much you feel like we are wired like that, I immediately go and stop the music. I deleted all the musuc playlists on my mobile music which I downloaded. I was anyway not listening to them. So my mobile memory was getting bigger, storage getting full. So I deleted all the songs. I was anyway not listening. I don't even listen to music on Instagram. I don't watch poetry because I'm not interested. Because suddenly poora din or 2z3 hours i become emeotional and go back to zero no matter how i tried ,and lower my frequency , I started crying. Yes, feel overwhelmed.

And the fact is, when I want to cry, I just cry. I feel empathy or I feel anything, I just cry. And the fact I've just recently cried. But what did I do? I started reciting Surah Fatiha seven times. Then Ya Jabbaru for happiness. And Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyumu birahmatika astagheesu. Ya Hannanu Ya Mannanu. Ya Hallal Mushkilat.

The fact immediately I can feel in my body the frequency slows. I start to calm down. I release my emotions. listening to songs, going into self-pity, negative talk, scrolling and stalking — all prolong those emotions.

Emotions last no more than five minutes, nothing more than that. And the fact is, Surah quran ki aur Allah Ta'ala ke naam have frequencies. The fact we talk positive things, it has frequency hamara self concept behtar hota hai we start to focus on that like i will say when u go from this room notice chair or go to see see red car. immediately ur brain will filter or notice that first. So imagine the Quran frequency when we recite it, Allah's word. and positive talk. and self talk and after we are craving and feeling emotional what u tell itself during that prollng or diffuse or nakes u go higher or lower ur self worth and value.