This is after marriage not initial dating. In early dating or friendship just see ,observe ,if u are align shared values ok if not they arenot for u. Early dating men itna invest attach ni. then It's just about that she doesn't do it herself, and some of it is about PR through mindset banana. Aur jo PR nahi karwate, jo ghar mein ladies hoti hain, they do it that way. Recover from Sisterology did that as well, and men appreciate them.

I'll give you the technique in the video as well. Take one action, even if it's very minimal, that he does for you. Usko apni interpretation de do, the kind of intention you would want from him in the future. But say it in a way as if he is already doing it with that intention and putting so much care into it.

Kehte hain na, ladka agar aapke liye kuch kare, be like a kid. Apne behaviour mein bhi bilkul aise ban jao jaise aapko kuch nahi aata. Don't take your things, don't pack your own things. Let a man do it. Be very feminine and unuseful in that sense. And when he does something for you, react like a child and show genuine appreciation.

But I'll tell you how you can actually do that.

For example, Ranveer is just holding a camera, which koi bhi hota toh woh bhi karta. But you mix that simple action with your own interpretation. You make him feel that he is celebrating your success, that he wants the best for you, that he wants you to go places and achieve success.

You can say things like:

"I love the way you always push me and celebrate my achievements. I can see how genuinely happy you are when main aage barh rahi hoon, mein kamyab ho rahi hoon. I love that about you."

Or, for example, "I loved the way you held the table that day when I was about to hit it. I genuinely feel safe knowing that jab bhi main kahin se guzrungi, you'll look out for me. Agar mere aas paas koi cheez hogi, you'll notice it and protect me, ke isko kahin lag na jaye."

You're basically appreciating his small actions while communicating the kind of care and consideration you value. You're also encouraging him to become more attentive and thoughtful towards you, so that even while you're simply walking around or doing everyday things, he naturally becomes more mindful of your comfort and safety.

Doosri cheez, give him peace, appreciation and emotional warmth. The more a man invests in you emotionally and financially, the more he develops a sense of involvement in the relationship. Let him take you out, plan things for you and spend on experiences together. Don't be afraid to receive.

And chatting mein bhi, just 10 minutes se zyada unnecessary chatting pe itna invest nahi karo. Thirty minutes or one hour, I think, is a bit too much for regular texting. You should have a life of your own. But when you spend time together, make sure you spend quality time.

It's about creating that balance. A man should feel that when she's present with me, she's fully present and emotionally available. But she also has a life of her own.

Of course, aap apni hobbies kar rahi ho, aapka apna friend circle hai, you're socialising, learning and growing as an individual. He gets to admire you as a person as well.

Men appreciate women who socialise, have witty comebacks, stand up for themselves and carry themselves with soft sophistication. They admire women who are socially confident, expressive and have their own personalities.

So that mysteriousness naturally comes in. It's not something you're deliberately creating by playing games or withholding attention. You're simply invested in yourself, your time, your hobbies and your own growth.

But when you're with him, you're giving him quality time and genuine attention.

And make him invest in you as well. Don't always make things convenient for him or take over every responsibility yourself. Let him plan, initiate, take you out and make an effort.

Because my point is that investment creates involvement. When someone consistently invests emotionally, through effort, time and financial generosity, they are also building a connection with you. Otherwise, if you keep accepting the bare minimum and never allow him to invest, you can end up becoming a placeholder in someone's life while he directs his effort and resources elsewhere.