Control your sensory input and stop giving your past so much attention

And I will give you very good advice. Hamza is working, jo bhi working kar rahe hain, ya jo bhi aapke ex-partners hain, jo bhi hain, not interested karo. mat dekho Go work, gym karo jaake. Go work on your Instagram and YouTube. Not interested karte jao. Social circle gor shughal ,,Woh kis ke saath movie kar rahe hain, kis ke saath drama kar rahe hain. Yes, you get curious. Mere andar bhi pehle ye urges hoti thi. Now I don't even stalk people to see what's happening in their lives, even my relatives.When you stalk your ex-partners again and again, you might think you're just checking on them, but you're actually keeping them relevant in your mind. Jitna aap us insaan ke baare mein cheezein dekh rahe hoge, comments read kar rahe hoge, vlogs aur unke baare mein discussions follow kar rahe hoge, the more attached you can become.

You start forgetting why you detached in the first place. Aapko woh red flags yaad nahi rehte jo aapne notice kiye thay. You become irrational, and you might even start wanting them back.

If you keep them fresh in your memory and neurons through sensory input, by watching them, listening to them and talking about them, you won't be able to overcome those emotions easily. Out of sight, out of mind.

How did I do that? Maine chunks mein kiya, sensory input control. 4 hours no phone then 6 hours ni dekhna ,training ,then 1 day First, I am self-loyal. Mujhe ye feeling pasand nahi hai ke main aisi koi anxious feeling lowering my frequency ,and things tgat arenot in my control unki fikar or peace khrab ,over emotional. I realised meri curiosity thori dair k liye usko shant karne ki mehnat and disvipline but after that jo mess hoga, dekho gi ,comment related ,stapk ,peeps, jo anxiety hogi, bigger mess ,zyada dair tak or obsession desperate and jo chez isnt meant for me yske lite pareshan and even if its meant apki desperate energy kisi k bary men subah sham soch k tu jb ap milty hu very over burden energy expectation speed ,person can feel it ,it killls your charm. tu itni zyada mess lk usko bhi toh mujhe care karna padega. tu thori si curiosity ko manage control karo by controlling my sensory input ,out of sight out of mind ,

Situationships mein main phir padungi, ya koi insaan victimise ban ke meri confidence suck karne ki koshish karega, toh main phir situationship mein wapas emotional ho jaungi. man loces to flirt and make women fall for them. its a game and valiadation for them and also tehy wills ay things like men kuch karlonga khud ko. or to gain access and get leverage and benefits to sucking your energy saying men akela hu or victimizing and dosre larki ki atreef katna or mom ki like expecting u to do things for him. jese saif ny rida ko bola k kanwal jesi dost ni. tida understood usme kaha han yeh bat theek hai. she didnt get insecure she stayed centered q k saif use kar raha tha as a number game but rida saif ki games men ni ati thi never lost her individaulity and puppet or uske kehne py rishty khatam,saif ki jiske sath larai hoti thi he wanted k uske grouo waly b baat na kare. ,aknwal chamchi ban k wohi krti thi but rida sb k sath 10 ,15 minute ebthna aty jaty bat karna achy sy filter taruqy baat karna. jb k kanwal badtamezi kar k log sunty b ni thy. even fight men rida ki baat sunty thy or tameez or lehaz tha. q k she is best at detachment bounadries kimdnes ,rational startegic calaculative dignity ,calm regulated nervous ssytem and social and joyful. gym and life of her own. big socail circle bna k rakho. or apni dignity loose . q k na koi taluq na koi baat ,these things amn play with the women who they arenot serious with fun adventure and jab apn groumded rehty high value they actually fall for u q k they subconsiously and consiously test your boundaries. u stay friend or boundaries but never lose urslef and lose ur dignity boundaries and integrity and startegically cakaculative whats best for you. situationships ,kisi committed guy k saty involve honau call your makafate amal or Allah ko apny ANTI KARLETY HU ,HOW STUPID AND ALSO U LOSE YIURSELF FREQUENCY WIRTH CUZ U ARE WHAT CHOICES U MAKE ,emotions hoty but which path u take ,usung islam neuroplasticity ,repationship psychology ,man psychology ,people behaviour pattern reading ,discipline strategic calculative sith integrity ,,knowledge hazrat ali ,yeh duniya akhirat 2no k liye bhalai or khud k sath self loyal choices ,emotions are raw ,chota bacha jo no survival instinct use sab chahiye jo shine karti hy , and control ,emotional regulation ,or agar ni krte. situationships and no control .low integrity. And uske baad phir mujhe khud apne aap ko lower frequency se nikalna padega. Why should I give myself that and lower my frequency? Islam mein bhi ye cheez nahi hai. It's not kindness. Kindness without boundaries makes you get used and devalued.