First of all, a woman should choose a man who is family-oriented, has leadership qualities, is calm, and is responsible—not just in his relationship with you, but in his life in general. Because no matter what, if a man is irresponsible, love will eventually fade. His true nature and character will reveal themselves over time.

And also, it was very evident that his... his family is conservative. He is brought up as boy. and man dpendant for his decision on family .immediately cut . should be balance family man. k i will be respectful with my famoly but my life my decisions .HZ don't have any leadership qualities. So how did you even think that you should repeat the same mistake of your past? You should be with the guy who is a bad, not boys. And also see if they are lustful men, if their eyes wander here and there or not. If they have control in their eyes, marry that person, with all these, of course, skills.And khuda khofi, I rarely see that kind of strong values and control in Hamz, especially considering the way he's openly flirting with Iqra, Yum, and others.

He should be responsible in his everyday life as well. For example, if something breaks or needs fixing, does he take responsibility and get it done, or does he keep saying, “I’ll do it later. I’m tired. I’ll do it after some time”? If he has that tendency, it reflects his irresponsibility.

muneeb butt healthy man .leadership qualities he says u need go cahnge for a womna but he also said bola ni hy but its evident k he cant see her doing romance with another woman , He told her that he would make her happy and support her in everything. itny trips py jaty he ,You can have your job, you can be on Instagram, you can do whatever you want, and you can even turn your Instagram into your own TV channel. Literally, BTS became huge partly because of social media marketing. Hania, more than her dramas, gets so many brand offers because of her solo social media power. Social media can enhance your career if you use it creatively.

There is so much you can do with Instagram. You can create your own storylines, hire a writer, and develop cinematic reels. Iqra Kaur literally has such a strong team. Sisterology House has its own photographer and PR team. Why can't you invest in yourself like that? And you need to fire people quickly if they aren't serving your purpose.

Look at Ananya Panday, for example. She reportedly changed her team because they weren't presenting her strengths appropriately for international opportunities. If you're going through a bad phase in life, you cannot simply force yourself to act like a bubbly, joyful person. If you're not socialising, you cannot suddenly become an extrovert. That suppression shows. No matter how good an actor you are, you're not a robot at the end of the day.

You can literally turn Instagram into your own TV channel. People create cinematic storylines in two-minute, one-minute, and even thirty-second reels, and these videos get millions of views. You can do that after marriage, or you can continue working on television with a different mindset, where you establish boundaries around close-proximity scenes.

And it's not just about him. It's also about exclusivity in a relationship. Jab aapka partner aapko kisi doosre mard ke saath aise intimate scenes karte dekhta hai, for example, when you're running your hand over another man's head, it can affect how he experiences that same intimacy with you. When something becomes something you've shared with other people on screen, it may not feel as exclusive to him anymore. You can end up affecting your own relationship.

A woman might be willing to adjust to her husband's acting scenes, but that doesn't necessarily mean a man will be equally comfortable with his wife doing the same. And if you don't want to do those kinds of scenes, you can also mutually agree that he won't do them either.

These are things you need to clarify at the beginning of a relationship, not after marriage. You have to communicate your values and expectations clearly from the start. It's much better that way.

After marriage, you may not care as much about public praise or people clapping for you and saying how amazing you are. Historically, men have often benefited more from relationships and family arrangements, while women have had to make greater sacrifices. That's a reality worth considering.

A woman can build recognition through her solo performances, impactful dialogues, aesthetic appeal, and professional work. That is why you should concentrate on building your own identity and career.

And even if a drama has intense scenes, you can request that they be changed. If people continuously pressure you to do something that goes against your values, you can say, “I cannot do this.”

Ultimately, setting these boundaries from the beginning can help protect your relationship, preserve mutual respect, and maintain the sense of exclusivity and loyalty that both partners value.Choose a man who is loyal, calm, has leadership skills, and can make his own decisions. He should be capable of building his own home and taking responsibility for his life without getting irritated over every little thing, thinking, “Why do I have to do this as well?” He should be brave enough to stand by his decisions.

If you keep choosing a man who is phattu, dependent on his family and mother for every decision, then you cannot blame him entirely when he ends up leaving you or disappointing you. Your emotions may be making you ignore the red flags, ignore what's best for you, and overlook self-discipline, rationality, and self-loyalty. You keep investing in him simply because you have feelings for that person.

Self-loyalty means recognising that your nervous system feels calmer around the right person. Menopause, periods, pregnancy, and all these stages of life will happen in the future. You want a partner with whom you can feel peaceful while navigating these experiences.

If you keep choosing chaos because you're emotionally attached, lonely, or desperate to get into a relationship, girl, work on your inner self first.

Socialize, socialize, socialize. I keep saying this. You shouldn't have just one or two friends. You need to build a wider social circle.

Go to the gym and have short conversations with people there. Sometimes go out alone, sit at a café, and observe your surroundings. You'll gradually develop the quiet confidence to sit peacefully, enjoy stillness, and feel comfortable without constantly needing to fill the silence.

Sometimes, being comfortable with silence and quietly enjoying each other's company is much more peaceful and relaxing than constantly talking. You need to train that muscle, too.

Socialize with your hobby friends, join poetry classes, attend community gatherings, and make friends through activities like bowling. You already have so many co-actors you work with. Why not call someone and say, “Let's hang out sometime if you're free. Whenever you have time, we can go out together.”

And when people visit your social media page, acknowledge them and engage with their comments. If people are complimenting and appreciating your work, engaging with them can be beneficial for your social presence and public image. These are all opportunities to build connections.

Build a wider circle of acquaintances, and gradually develop a smaller inner circle of three or four people you genuinely trust and regularly spend time with. You need both social connections and a few close relationships.

However, even with people you trust, you don't need to share your initial thoughts, private plans, or deepest secrets immediately. Keep your most personal matters between yourself and Allah until you have clarity. Not even family members necessarily need access to every detail of your life.

I understand my own family patterns. I know how certain sisters might react to particular things, so I'm very careful about what I share with them or my brother. The same applies to my mother. For example, even when I specifically asked her not to discuss a particular topic with my brother because I wanted to maintain my dignity and privacy around certain matters, she still shared it. So I've learned to be careful about what I disclose, even with people I'm close to.

When you develop the ability to recognise patterns in people's behaviour, you begin to understand situations more objectively and rationally. You also learn to recognise your own patterns. Of course, you should forgive yourself for past mistakes, but you should also learn from them rather than repeatedly making the same choices.

Treat your experiences as data, not as reasons to hate yourself or other people. Observe, understand, learn, and grow.

And how do you grow? Because you love yourself enough to recognise what is better for you and have the discipline to choose it. Self-loyalty means that even when your emotions pull you in one direction, you have enough self-respect, rationality, and inner stability to choose what is genuinely good for you.And also, it was quite evident that his family was conservative and that he was brought up in that environment. He didn't seem to have the leadership qualities you were looking for. So how did you even think of repeating the same mistakes from your past? You should choose a man, not a boy.

Also, observe whether a man is lustful, whether his eyes wander here and there, and whether he has control over his gaze. Look for these qualities, along with loyalty, maturity, responsibility, and leadership.

But even if he has all these qualities, be very clear about one thing: if he isn't choosing you, he isn't for you. He isn't the right person for you. Remember that.

I remember a girl saying she had been in a relationship for 10 years and that her partner had treated her very well. Then, one day, he left her because his family wasn't agreeing to the relationship, and she was devastated.

Of course, cry. Feel your emotions. You're allowed to grieve. But alongside those emotions, use rationality and knowledge. Listen to relationship experts like Matthew Hussey, Jillian Turecki, and Sabrina Zohar. One woman explained that, in the end, he didn't choose her, so he couldn't be the one for her.

Whenever you miss him, cry if you need to. Make dua to Allah. But then, with every wave of missing him, consciously remind yourself of the reality. Jis tarah aapko uski yaad aati hai, usi tarah apne brain ko woh purani story repeat karne se rokein jo aapko purane emotional patterns mein wapas le jaati hai.

Cry to Allah, but rationally redirect your emotions. When you process your grief and memories, attach them to solid boundaries, clarity, and self-worth rather than fantasies about what could have been. This way, you're gradually strengthening your belief in yourself and your self-loyalty instead of repeatedly reinforcing the same emotional patterns.

Whenever those thoughts return, repeat that reminder to yourself or watch a relevant TED Talk. Lekin rona ghalat nahi hai. Cry, make dua, and then consciously redirect your emotions towards what is right for you.

You can only understand your emotions when you have knowledge. Ask yourself what you're feeling, why you're feeling it, and what that emotion is trying to tell you. Learn about psychology, neuroscience, and neuroplasticity, and verify what you learn against Islamic principles. Bohot si ego-soothing statements, toxic music, poetry, aur information aisi hoti hain jo temporarily achi lagti hain, lekin zaroori nahi ke woh aapko genuinely heal bhi karein.

And then, go to the gym. Eat healthy, socialise, explore your hobbies, and invest in your life. Itni saari cheezein hain life mein karne ke liye. You cannot keep spending your entire life thinking about one situation. Feel your emotions, learn from them, make dua, and move forward with clarity, dignity, and self-loyalty.if u have low self worth than u will excuse behaviour in the name of empathy ,if u havenot healed u will project your parents onto your partner subconsiously. and agar apki feminity is irregulated phir na pa idhar k hotu na udhar k then u become chammi dumb .get used .marraige out of convenience ,upar sy rough tough but andar sy coconut soft jb k feminity is soft exterior soft boice charming expresison but ration calculative strategic and integrity street smart +book smart neuroplasticity. discipline. and I also feel ke larkiyon ki bhi responsibility hoti hai. should have understood the fact that some men still boys , have neither the capability to start a family, nor the leadership, maturity, responsibility, loyalty, or commitment to fulfil their promises. These are the things that turn a boy into a man.

If a man is still in his playboy era, even if he is committed, he will cheat. A calm, mature man understands that as a leader, he has to solve problems and make things better. and firm on his decision whe he started .

These boys khud relationships mein parte hain without having any clear purpose. They make a girl fall in love with them, by. acting k woh alag hy ,so cool manly ,calm respectful loyal. and leadership and then, unhe apni communication nai karny ati pehky they iwll say kuch ni karlo karlo yeh b and when a women actually do it toh unko gaslight and tantrums throw k yhe q kia ?abhsiahke and aishwariya type. aishawariya lost all her spark and try to dim her light just to make other and insecure man comfortable an druined her life.so when amke u fall in with false pretence when things get serious, unko commitment issues ho jate hain. apny rasamo rivaj yad ajaty hai. tu rasam rivaj yad kar k waha hi sasta jhota ishq larana tha na. ap itny agy aky then piche mor k dekho woh bnad bhag gaya hota ahi. ise khai men dhaka dena hi khty hen. ya phir unke andar itni salahiyat hi nahi hoti ke woh apne commitment ke promise ko fulfil kar sakein.

Not just in Pakistan, but all over the world, only 5–10% of men are actually marriage-material types. Har koi mard nahi hota.

If you have different values and purposes in life, you should be clear about them in your own head. Aap apni life mein kisi aur ko emotions ke saath is tarah hurt nahi kar sakte, na hi kisi ke emotions ke saath khel sakte hain.

For a man, it's just a game, and there are no consequences for them. This is the difference between a boy and a man. They talk big and yap a lot about everything, but when it comes to actually fulfilling their commitment, that's when you find out whether they're a man or just a boy.