Remember Sajal, your mashriqui aura is your strength. Cool kids mein fit hone ke liye ,broo yeh mat karo .. You looked best in Gul-e-Rana ,chupke sy bahar ajaye —those shalwar kameez, your Urdu, that pyari accent. That softness, adorability and free andaaz was you embracing your feminine energy and your roots.Low self-worth, the need for validation and social-media influence can make you feel like you need to become tougher or more “femme fatale” to impress people. But feminine women are strong—in fact, some of the strongest. You don’t need to become harder, colder, masculine or dress up a certain way to prove your strength. Confidence, boundaries, independence, discipline and integrity can all exist with softness, nurturing, joy and femininity.

A lot of “baddie energy” is just putting fancy words over behaviour that shouldn’t be normalized. Strong boundaries and confidence are good; you don’t have to turn yourself into a different person to have them. Sahi values ke saath stand out karo instead of changing yourself to fit in.

And honestly, even modern/liberal people can be drawn back to that grounded, desi femininity—the woman who knows her roots, has haya and values, knows her worth, has boundaries, adapts, grows, enjoys life and has a strong sense of self.liberals ,l literally said he wanted to be in the gaon and do Patiala-shalwar girls

Your Urdu, softness, adorability and that free, goofy andaaz also come from experience. Solo travel, roz logon se milna, grocery karna, strangers se deal karna—you learn how to communicate, negotiate, stand your ground and stop being so self-conscious. Solo travelling especially teaches you that you can be silly and goofy in front of strangers, experience awkward moments, laugh and think, “yeh bhi experience hai, yeh bhi fun hai,” and still safely make your way back home.

So build yourself—muscle training, travelling, bike riding, pottery, journaling, learning English one page at a time and training the accent you actually like. Evolve, grow and enjoy being yourself.

You can become stronger without abandoning your femininity. Women don’t need to become men to conquer the world.