Maine naya banda pakar liya hai new expressions seekhne ke liye, ad ka patani but marriage videos ki 2 ,3 clips i love her expressions and tehrao. which is Faisu ki wife Tanya. She is shy, but shy in a confident way, not awkward. That is called quiet confidence. Quiet confidence mein thehrao, calmness, aur regulated nervous system hota hai.

And even watch Esra at the party. She is literally sitting quietly, not trying to fill the silence, peeche, because uske liye party waghera abhi filhaal new hai. First observe, become socially comfortable, then start participating too.

And I even learned that from my cousin as well. Woh har jagah, har social dancing event mein jaati hai aur enjoy karti hai. Woh kuch bolti nahi thi. She just observes. And she is the most successful in her life. She never avoids social parties or anything. Social parties se meri murad bad parties nahi, social gatherings aur all.

So first build that muscle. Chaar-paanch logon ko apne ghar mein rakho. Kuch Sia ho gayi, kuch Ankahi, Saira Yusuf se connect raho, Wase Choudhry, Nadeem Baig. I am not talking about men; I am talking about girls.

Aur healing ke liye Allah ke paas vent karna hai. Woh right energy direction hai. Jab aap logon ke paas apni saari emotional energy direct karte ho, toh usmein emptiness aur attachment barh sakti hai, aur neurons us pattern ko strong kar sakte hain. Jab sab kuch Allah se share karna hai, toh Allah se vent karo na. Logon ke saath sirf sugar, sugar in a way ke unko appreciate karo, support karo, lekin boundaries maintain karo. Unko pata hona chahiye ke, zahir hai, aap apne liye bhi dekhoge.

Miss, smash, yeh sab tab hota hai jab unko lagta hai ke unke saath kuch ho sakta hai. Kuch jagahon par you just take it easy, but kuch cheezon mein you need to give a reply back.

Because agar aahista aahista unko aadat ho gayi na, toh pehli baat, aap overgive karte karte har kisi ke mama ban jaate ho. Second, jab aap unki kisi baat ke baad ekdum se jawab dete ho, toh unko bardasht nahi hota ke iski itni himmat kaise ho gayi ke yeh humein jawab de rahi hai ya hamari kisi opportunity ko challenge kar rahi hai. Phir woh aapko badnaam karna shuru kar dete hain, because you didn't create that expectation of boundaries earlier.

Of course, main toh zahir hai apna faida dekhungi, but you need to communicate in a healthy and funny way, like, "Tumhein kya lag raha tha, main chhor doongi? Zahir hai, is saal maine mehnat ki hai apne liye, toh main apne liye toh zaroor dekhungi."

And other people know. Even astrology mein unki strong boundaries hoti hain, ke sab apne apne channel ka dekhte hain. Rules and regulations and balance.

Obsession kisi bhi cheez mein ho, especially relationships mein, woh kabhi sustain nahi karta. Toxicity, not moving on, desperation, chasing, aur romance ko apni life ka centre bana lena unhealthy hai. Music, movies, aur dramas mein bhi unhealthy relationship dynamics ko glamourise kiya jaata hai, aur hamara brain unhealthy relationships se unhealthy patterns seekh sakta hai.

Toh jinhon ne in cheezon ko samjha hai na, woh apni life mein flourish kar rahe hain. Because unka right sequence hai: centre of the universe Allah. Unse apni private baatein share karenge, heal karenge, dua karenge, aur saath saath apni growth aur skills bhi learn kar lenge. Phir jab right insaan, situation, ya opportunity aayegi, toh aap usko achhe se handle kar paate ho aur apni value maintain kar paate ho.

Then everything else, even parents, is a part of life. Toh phir aap in cheezon ko dekh kar sahi faislay karte ho, rationally, objectively, with integrity and values.

And life ke bhi different sections hain. First family, family mein partner waghera sab. Then job, then everything else.

And stop doing close-proximity scenes. Usmein kisi bhi relationship mein mardon ka faida hota hai, aur aapki dignity lose hoti hai, jabke unki tharak poori hoti hai. Central arc, prominent roles, and dialogues.

And your looks are a privilege, so apne looks ka khayal rakho. Then positive pyaar. Apna kaam karke chhor do. Phir apne solo trip par chale jao. Achhi praise ho ya buri praise, usse detach ho jao. Apne aap ko grow karo, skills develop karo.

Isse kya hoga? Isse yeh hoga ke ek waqt aayega jab aapki apni validation aapke liye sabse zyada important hogi. Because aapko pata hoga ke, of course, I know things, because I know technically, objectively, logically, rationally, and knowledge-wise, I know things. Of course, agar koi mujhe uske mutabiq kuch batata hai, toh main uski baat sunungi.

But aapka apne aap se connection bhi hota hai. Aapki apni validation, aapki apni zaat mein discipline, aur aap jo discipline maintain karte ho, usse aapki body safe feel karti hai. Because hamari biology ke liye jo cheez behtar hai, usi ko choose karna chahiye. Aap emotional state mein indulge ho kar, apni dignity ya kisi bhi cheez ke maamle mein khud ko lose karne ke bajaye, woh faislay karo jo aapke future ke liye safe hon. Har cheez ka faisla behtar tareeqe se karo.

Even neuroplasticity aur neuroscience ke maamle mein, main hamesha pehle Islam ke bahar ja kar check karti thi, because after gaining so much knowledge, before, I used to never trust Islam and always question it.

Even Hazrat Ali ka quote hai ke religion ko inherit mat karo; usko seekho. Comparative religion aur har field ko study karne ke baad samjho.

Now I trust what Islam says, because jo cheez haram hai, Allah Ta'ala ko pata hai. Usne humein is tarah banaya hai ke woh cheez hamari body ke liye haram hai. Frequency, energy, sab cheezon ke hawale se Allah ko humse zyada ilm hai.